Educating Children About Pet Compassion and Safety

Posted on Sep 8, 2018
Educating Children About Pet Compassion and Safety

The kids are back to school and that means more learning and growth for all. One subject that doesn’t get enough time in the classroom is compassion, both for fellow humans and for pets and other animals in our lives. Run Those Dogs cares deeply about the care and safety of all animals. That’s why we’ve put together these thoughts about how to bring extra learning into the family, taking the time to learn and teach about compassion and safety for the animals (and people) we encounter.


When you own a pet, the responsibility of teaching and learning goes both ways between children and pets. For example, children learn how to feed and care for furry friends and, in turn, what it means to care for another living being outside themselves. Realizing that others have feelings, and that our actions impact those feelings, is the first step. That’s called empathy–the ability to understand and share the feelings of others.


Approaches to Encouraging Empathy and Compassion

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Run Those Dogs owner Jen Sewell with a client.

Like many social skills, there is a spectrum of empathy and compassion. Not everyone is born with a lot, while others have it in spades without even trying. You can probably think of the people in your life with loads of empathy. And hopefully, you can have compassion for those that don’t. Thankfully, empathy can be taught in a variety of ways.


Not surprisingly, successfully teaching and encouraging empathy and compassion employs some of the same techniques you might have used to teach your dog or cat how you want them to behave. That includes being a good role model, positively correcting inappropriate behavior, being consistent, and selectively choosing examples that reinforce the desired behaviors.


Be A Role Model

Even when we’re not in ‘teacher mode’ and we don’t even think they are paying attention, children are learning from our behavior. Modeling the behavior you desire in them is perhaps the most important way to encourage empathy and compassion. We can be positive models for children in simple ways. Taking spiders, flies and bees outside instead of killing them is one example. Giving space, talking kindly, helping or gently petting an injured or shy animal is another. This encourages kindness while being mindful of the animal’s personality and abilities. Many children will be able to generalize and apply this approach to interacting with humans, such as a classmate with a broken arm or someone who uses a wheelchair.


Reinforce Positive Behavior

Just as we might give a dog a treat when she sits on command, we must notice and praise children when they are doing the behavior we desire. That can come in the form of direct verbal praise in the moment, “I notice how sweet and gentle you’re being with Mitsy,” or “Wow, you were so compassionate when you checked Mitten’s paw.”


Children can also be rewarded with additional time and attention with an animal, friend or an adult when they show compassion and empathy for animals. Most children respond well to positive attention from others and are willing to do those behaviors again, without even thinking about it.


Gently Correct Inappropriate Behavior

run those dogs cats toy stanwood arlington camano marysville compassionRemembering that everyone’s empathy and compassion fall on a spectrum, that means that some children (and adults) may not be able to learn or generalize from role models. Those individuals might need our help with gentle correction. Just like training an animal, gentle correction needs to be pretty immediate, depending on the age of individual, to be effective.


Preschoolers and kinders need correction within a few minutes or they won’t remember what happened. While safety of the animals is paramount, the time to correction can increase proportionately with age. Often, gentle correction with middle and high schoolers is best done in private later the same day when time allows for deeper discussion and without distractions.


As you might have guessed, abrupt, shaming or correction that is too firm may not achieve the desired behavior. Some children respond to criticism that isn’t constructive in defensive ways. That means they might ignore your correction on purpose next time, or even act out negatively to get more of your attention, even if its your negative response. Be sure your response is calm, measured and deliberate. Take a break if needed to make sure you’re approaching the child with compassion and remembering that sometimes they can’t already know some of the things we take for granted.


Be Consistent

run those dogs cats toy stanwood arlington camano marysville compassionThe developing brains of children (and animals) try to categorize the world, making observations and then rules about the way the world works. For example, when I wake up in the morning, I get dressed, make my bed, eat breakfast, wash my face and brush my teeth. If every morning is different for a child, they won’t build the connections between neurons in the brain that help them internalize, and automate, that routine. Being consistent, as a role model and with gentle correction, is very important to help children. If you are only gentle with animals sometimes, or their bad behavior goes without correction half the time, the nerve cells in their brain tell them that sometimes its okay to hit an animal when you’re feeling mad.


Take the break if you need it to be a good role model. Make the time in your busy schedule to talk about and correct inappropriate behavior. And be aware of the potential precedents you might be setting if you are being inconsistent in your responses.


Choose Media that Present Desired Behaviors

We won’t delve in to the heated debate here about whether or not video games and television shows effect empathy and compassion. But there is evidence that violence toward animals (and humans) in these and other forms of media can desensitize children, especially very young children who are still learning to differentiate between fantasy versus reality and ‘right’ versus ‘wrong.’


As a parent, relative, or guardian, you can be selective about what media can be consumed by children in your household. There is evidence that video games and other media where the player is in a positive or neutral role, such as a rescuer or helper, translates to positive behavior in real life.


Selectively watching movies that show positive interactions with animals, as opposed to those that show a ‘hero’ who harms animals, can be a positive place to start. Animal-friendly suggestions for children include Chicken RunBambiLady and the TrampShilohFree WillyBabeMy Dog SkipFinding Nemo, Grizzly Adams and Shark Tale.Compassion Run Those Dogs Jen Sewell Snohomish Marysville Stanwood Arlington Pet Memorial


Books that show animals as feeling individuals are also a wonderful approach. You can read to the child, or encourage independent reading in older kids. Some tried and true suggestions include Lassie Come HomeBlack BeautyCharlotte’s WebFrederickBlueberries for SalThe Forgotten Door, and Make Way for Ducklings.


As with all media input for children, its difficult to approach it perfectly. But being conscientious in finding the balance between free choice and setting healthy boundaries while encouraging positive choices with your participation, or lack of it, may be the best approach.


Other Activities that Promote Empathy and Compassion

People for the Ethical Treatment of Animals (PETA) suggests participating in caring activities with animals and fellow humans. They suggest that you show your kids that it’s cool to care by regularly engaging them in fun empathy-building activities. Here are just a few of their suggestions.


  • Visit and/or volunteer at your local animal shelter with your child to help care for homeless animals. In the Stanwood-area, we highly recommend NOAH Center. Or find the one near you.
  • Plant flowers and shrubbery for butterflies, bees, and other wildlife in your back yard.
  • During a walk at the beach, in the woods, or by a stream, pick up plastic rings, bottles, and other trash that can kill birds, turtles, dolphins, and other animals.compassion Run Those Dogs Jen Sewell Snohomish Marysville Stanwood Arlington Rabies Education
  • When a pet passes away, take it seriously. Even if its a goldfish or stick bug. Celebrate the life lived and create positive funeral and memorial experiences. Learning to process emotions after a loss are very important and lay the groundwork for future losses.

If you’re a classroom teacher, The Humane Society of the United States has a collection of lesson plans that can easily be adapted into classroom programs and engage parents to help kids learn before getting a pet.


You’re probably already doing a great job of helping kids learn empathy and compassion with animals and their fellow humans. The team at Run Those Dogs thanks you for every positive effort you make to help keep animals safe and respected.

1 Comment

  1. Jaliyiah
    January 21, 2021

    So how do we deal with biting dogs? To start with, we must remind ourselves that biting is a natural activity of all dogs, and that there is potential for injury. All dog owners must understand this and must be made aware that they are fully responsible for the actions of their dogs. I am not convinced that this is universally understood by dog owners, nor am I satisfied that every dog owner takes the necessary steps to train and socialize their dog. Owners need to be encouraged to actively work at inhibiting biting behaviour when dogs are young. As well, all dogs should be socialized to accept children, regardless of whether or not there are children living with the dog. Adults without dogs need to learn that dogs don t understand people s rights, and that dogs should not be expected to act differently with different people. Adults also need to understand that young children should never be left alone with a dog (or a cat) without supervision, and that all children should be taught how to behave around dogs, particulary around dogs they don t know. So long as we have dogs living with us there will be people who get bitten. The most effective way to prevent bites is to encourage dog owners to become knowledgeable about their animals and to train and socialize them so that they can become good dog neighbours. Many municipalities already have by-laws that deal with animal bites, and in Ontario the Dog Owners Liability Act has proven to be effective in confining, restraining or disposing of biting or attacking dogs judged to be a definite threat to public health and safety, and when evidence warrants, there is always Section #221 of the Criminal Code of Canada. Most legislation deals with bites after the fact. If we want to prevent all bites, there is only one sure way and that is to ban all dogs. That is of course as unrealistic as trying to prevent bites by enacting breed specific legislation.